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Networking is like flirting

28 Mar

It’s Saturday night and a friend and I are having a casual dinner at a little resturant in Malibu. The waiter comes to ask for our order and I can’t help but notice how attractive he is. So I smile as I ask for water and give him my order, my very very subtle way of flirting. Flirting is something I feel I have never been good at. It takes just the right about of being coy and outgoing at the exact same time, a combination I have never seem to manage in the right amounts.

Then as dinner goes on, I hear a couple dissusing “their magazine”  in the booth next to us. I am delighted! What are the chances?! I whisper to my friend if I should introduce myself, try to network a little with clearly experienced people in the industry my heart is currently set on. Her response is “what do you have to lose?” Well my pride for one, what if they aren’t interested in talking, what if they are mean or rude? The same chances you take when you start the game of flirting with the opposite sex.

So I went for it, I took a chance put myself out there and introduced myself. We even swapped business cards! As I turned back around to face my friend, I was blushing, proud that I networked like a “real professional” and didn’t look too stupid.

I’ll be honest, I’ve never gotten a guy’s number before. I don’t know if its super common for women, but it’s never happened to me. So I have never had to make the dreaded first phone call, but when I network with that follow up call or email I get the excate same feelings as I would assume you get when making that first dating call. I debate incessantly about when to follow up. Is it too soon? Do I wait for the work week? What do I write? Should it be casual or formal? Do I just say hello or mention the prospect of a job?  Tons of options as to what to say and how to phrase things race through my head. My palms get sweaty, heat of embarrasment spreads up my neck and into my cheeks, my god you would think I was propsing marriage! But in the end I send the email and await the response.

I haven’t heard anything yet, but if I do I’ll let you know. Who knows maybe it will turn into a full blown relationship! Oh and as for the waiter, I debated about leaving my number on the receipt, but one adventure in the flirting world was enough for me for one night. Next time…